The problem with “Nice Guys” isn’t just about sex, and a lot of “Nice Guys” are tricked into thinking that they aren’t scumbags because their intent isn’t to get laid.
Demanding mutual emotional attraction from someone who doesn’t want to give it is just as creepy and entitled, and you don’t get a free pass just because your intent is just to make her love you, not get into her pants.
When it comes to education, there is no one-size-fits-all answer for what works. Some students might flourish in a single-sex environment, and some might not. However, it is the subliminal messages we send our students that need to be addressed when we separate young people based on their gender. The problem with single-sex classrooms in co-ed school districts is the various assumptions about gender we are enforcing. When boys and girls are separated for certain classes, the resounding message is not that boys and girls learn differently, but that girls can’t do what boys do and vice versa. These sorts of stereotypes can not only hinder educational opportunities, but can also carry through to society as these students grow up, and that can foster other stereotypes based on gender throughout these students’ lives.
Students are individuals. Separating them based on assumptions about their gender will have the same detrimental effects as separating them based on race, sexuality, or any other factor. By separating students, we are telling them that they are fundamentally different. Instead, we should be treating each student as an individual learner and allowing them to explore the learning styles that work best for them, regardless of gender.
Why am I grossed out by the things that usually turn me on lately? I’m seeing bondage and all the BSDM stuff that used to be my key to sexual excitement, and now suddenly these things aren’t sexy at all! I look at them and I’m grossed out!
“When gays get so angry about a chicken sandwich, it is because Chick-fil-A has given around $5 million to fight to discriminate against us. When we praise brave Eagle Scouts who give up their badges in protest of the Boy Scouts of America’s prejudice, it’s not about scoring political points; it’s because there are kids in dens who are being taught to believe that they are less than equal. When we rant about the pastor who preaches that gays should be thrown into a concentration camp, we scream out of fear. And our fears are justified — in the last seven days, a lesbian in Nebraska was carved with a knife, a gay man in Oklahoma was firebombed, and a girl in Kentucky was kicked and beaten — her jaw broken and her teeth knocked out — while her assailants allegedly hurled anti-gay slurs at her.”—Conor Gaughan - “We Are Not Arguing Over Chicken” (Huffington Post)